"i love you and i like you"

"i love you and i like you" -Leslie Knope and Ben Wyatt (in their wedding vows), Parks and Recreation

you like someone.
you eventually grow to love that someone.
you still love that someone but you've fallen out of like.

in a relationship, the more time you spend with someone increases the probability that you love them. well, i would hope so anyway. if you don't see yourself in a situation where love is in the future, then you should probably get the eff out, right? you slowly learn their ins and outs, you know them better than they know themselves and you care a lot about them. but sometimes people stop caring for them. love lingers, but you don't necessarily like them anymore. does this make sense? i see a lot of people get comfortable in relationships and stay in them because they're scared of change or can't see that they're unhappy. or they love them. sure, you love them. but are you happy? do you even like the person anymore? or do you stick around because you just care about them?

"i love you and i like you" is equivalent of the saying "i love you and i'm in love with you." loving someone is great. but if you're going to spend the rest of your life with that person, being in love with them is just as important. yes, the butterflies might go away but you should still prefer to do/plan activities with that person, be attracted to that person (this doesn't necessarily mean superficially, folks), and that person should continue to stimulate you. whether it's in conversation, humor, or you see something in them that makes you want to be a better you. it could be anything so long as it keeps you in love or in like. and it's pretty f*cking important, i think. so please do yourself a favor and don't settle. i promise you i won't!

with that said, i wish you all luck and i hope that you find someone you can love and can be in love with.

light tomorrow with today

-Elizabeth Barrett Browning

what is said or done today paves the way for what's to come tomorrow. your actions and words have much more an impact than you may think. significant decisions such as a career change or whether or not you pay your bills on time certainly impact tomorrow and it's following days. but even something as subtle as smiling at a stranger or simply not being an asshole can make a great difference in your mood and the moods of the people surrounding you. and just think if it made you feel good today then if the same or comparable actions/words are repeated tomorrow and ever after, you're probably setting yourself up for some goodness in your life. 

"we wished upon parallel lines"

"i remember the first time we wished upon parallel lines"- FUN!,  All Alright

i love this! but not in the context of the rest of the song's lyrics. i love this isolated. the idea of two people on the same path or wishing for something in synchronization just emotes a feeling of connection or at least a similar thought process. or maybe they are just in the same place or same situation together and have a mutual understanding of what's going on. it doesn't even have to be about something dramatic. you know how when you think something is uproarious and just at that same moment another person thinks it's just as hysterical? you are drawn to that person as you "hahaha" together and it's almost like a hilarity jinx. and when two people's thought's are exactly the same at that precise moment, you're on parallel lines. and i love it.

"but i'm pretty f*cking stellar"

today the words "but i'm pretty f*cking stellar" came out of my mouth.

truth be told, the truth has been told.

i knooooow. nobody should be so cocky. but i work pretty hard at being a good person. and a respectable one. and a thoughtful one. and that's all it really takes to make you stellar. so please pardon me as i continue to realize that i'm a pretty decent person.

the people i surround myself with are pretty f*cking stellar themselves. so *virtual* pat on the back friends and family, for being amazing beings!

"we accept the love we think we deserve"

no truer words have ever been said.

i most recently heard these words in the movie The Perks of Being a Wallflower (which was really good, by the way. i highly recommend it. judging by the trailer only, you might think it's just a coming of age story but it's much more than that. just trust me!). but it's not the first time i've heard this. i remember hearing that quote years ago and it always stuck with me.

your own self esteem is the most valuable thing you own. too often people fall into relationships that are volatile and remain in them for as long as they think they can't do better. but underneath it all, they "can't do better" because they don't think they're worthy of greater things. if you think highly of yourself, you wouldn't let anybody walk all over you, right? so in love, if you know you're the equivalent of rainbows and unicorns, you should really only be with someone who also thinks you're amazing and treats you so. oh, and i assume that person will be top-notch-awesome themselves, because you wouldn't settle for anything less. i mean it's just a matter of respect and reciprocation.

so. am i awesome/amazing? i so am! cocky, i know. sorry i'm not sorry that i know my own worth!